Respectful Request For Myself & Jon

[Fierce Critter]

I realize we're responsible for our own choices, and subject to our own control of - or - lack thereof - our willpower.

However, we're both working on certain habits & behaviors these days. And it would make it that much more enjoyble, comfortable, and mind-easing if those who are inclined to generously offer Jon a smoke or either of us a drink would just not.

Yes, if offered either, it's our responsibility to decline. But if you truly like and respect either of us, understand that offering isn't "kind" to us right now, but added temptation & therefore, stress.

We will choose to not go period if we just think we're too weak to resist or set limits right now. But we'd like to think that people we know would prefer to see us around, and therefore, would react with support & understanding, rather than button-pushing and enabling.

If you like and/or respect either of us, you'll understand & assist us in this, and we will be greatful. If you don't and won't, well, kiss my ass.

See you Saturday.

[pharoh]

Good luck hun, I will offer you guys a bottle of water and some chewing gum, cause I'm thoughtfull like that lol.

That is when I decide to ever go again lol

[Fierce Critter]

Good luck hun, I will offer you guys a bottle of water and some chewing gum, cause I'm thoughtfull like that lol.

That is when I decide to ever go again lol

Exactly the kind of support I hoped - and am pleased - to receive. :D Thanks so much, Al. (And we do hope to see you up there again!)

You may see us drinking. But we will be taking direct steps to control the amounts we do or don't drink. So if you see me with a cup of cranberry or Jon with a Woodpecker, don't think we've already "failed". We'll be doing things to set and keep to limits.

[Homicidalheathen]

CONGRATS keep up the good work

[pomba gira]

Good for you sweetie... I'm too poor to be offering anyone drinks these days anyway but know you have my support & best wishes... I know from long & bitter experience how hard it is to break addictive bad habits. It makes a huge difference if those around you are willing to respect & support your efforts.

[Homicidalheathen]

Sure does. I am thinking of becomming a hermit because my friends just don't understand I want to quit drinking and smoking pretty much completly excpet when I go out but not everytime......seems like everytime we go out they try to get me to drink with them so its more fun.....for them....anyway....

[pomba gira]

Sure does. I am thinking of becomming a hermit because my friends just don't understand I want to quit drinking and smoking pretty much completly excpet when I go out but not everytime......seems like everytime we go out they try to get me to drink with them so its more fun.....for them....anyway....

That sucks. I know this is much easier advice to toss out than to do, but you may just need to lay it on the table & say "look, if y'all can't respect when I say No thanks, I won't be able to hang w/you anymore"

[Reaper]

Well, I usually only offer spankings and nothing else. Of course, if Jon wanted a spanking, I would have to hand that over to you lol.

[Msterbeau]

Respectful? Me?

[Nienna]

I can't drink or smoke anymore either.. so we can support eachother!