Gauge

forcing down some calories

no shit! on top of all that he felt in neccesary to send me 2 emails worth of his "work" wich i think are supposed to be short stories

reading an email from some douch. long story short i am "one disturbingly beautiful girl" and he thinks we should "skip all of this getting to know each other stuff and buy a puppy together" more specifically a black shar pei. he hopes hell hear from me soon because "were not going to stay young and beautiful forever. . .at least not him. . ." christ. . .

Your EQ is 147 50 or less: Thanks for answering honestly. Now get yourself a shrink, quick! 51-70: When it comes to understanding human emotions, you'd have better luck understanding Chinese. 71-90: You've got more emotional intelligence than the average frat boy. Barely. 91-110: You're average. It's easy to predict how you'll react to things. But anyone could have guessed that. 111-130: You usually have it going on emotionally, but roadblocks tend to land you on your butt. 131-150: You are remarkable when it comes to relating with others. Only the biggest losers get under your skin. 150+: Two possibilities - you've either out "Dr. Phil-ed" Dr. Phil... or you're a dirty liar. What's Your EQ (Emotional Intelligence Quotient)? http://www.blogthings.com/whatsyoureqquiz/

sunshine *giggle*

Not knowing how to think I scream aloud, begin to sink My legs and arms are broken down With envy for the solid ground I'm reaching for the life within me How can one man stop his ending I thought of just your face Relaxed, and floated into space

like someone needs to be kicked. . .really hard. . .yarrrrrrrrrrrrrrr an hour out of my day for absolutely NOTHING

getting ready to go to work . . . again . . . wtf is wrong with people

Staind-everything changes

Cthulhu will eat your soul ...yours to

my sexy new combat boots and oscar the grouch undies *giggle*

Cthulhu will eat your soul for such blaspheme

did you just call the high priestess of the elder god . . . cute? :laughing

Its singalong time with cthulhu! Old Cthulhu had a farm! Ia! Ia! Oh!

the story in your eyes-moody blues

Uploading pics to my album. . .so come comment

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1mr-jD1bDc :peanutbutterjellytime :peanutbutterjellytime :peanutbutterjellytime

eating breakfast. . .AND FREEZING MY ASS OFF!!!! this snow can leave any time

Erasure- Oh L'amour

Answer: I dont know specifically what your asking me here. Are you asking me to agree that this happens? YES I agree. Are you asking me if I condone it? NO I do not. i wasnt really aiming for an answer with that one, it was more or less just a "closing statement" for that part Answer: Religion is dogma is legalism is blindness is powerless is false. And too much of that is too much of an allready bad thing. thats pretty much all ive been trying to say =) Everything I do, think, process, filter, approach, attempt, argue, and consider comes from the example of Christ and how he did things. I pursue - on my own - of my own free will - a certain model that I find incredibly consistent and powerful. It does not come from some religeous sect or rulebook or social circle. I am constantly challenging myself - to be more than that. i can definately apreciate that kind of thought. it makes more sence to me than the typical christian viewpoint. Answer: OK I'll even buy this, because I know what you mean. I do. But your talking to a person who has lived many places, has known many people, and has had his fair share of expereinces. This includes much change throughout my Christian walk. What was taught to me did not come from a small unique click. I learned it over years, from many different people in many different places. and i to have lived in many places (for my time anyway) and known many people and had many experiences. but what im seeing is . . . well how to put it. . .say for example i take you and your experiences and me with mine, yours beeing more possitive (nothing beeing force fed) and mine beeing more negative (everything beeing force fed). i can take those two and apreciate them for what they are. at the same time i have to look out tho at what i see in the world and how christianity in the sence of family and children are concerned and to be quite honest with you at least 90% of what i see is doing nothing but back up what ive experienced. i think its great that your not like that and that youve found a group of people who arent like that but i still do not see most of the rest of the world following your trend. Do any of us want to be "the norm" Gague? Christian or Secular or Goth or whatever? Should we cling to the norm? Is the norm so far reaching that it is the only credible semblence of an absolute? im only using norm in the case because its a very broad spectrum of ideas. i could go listing of all the names of people who have proven my point and you could do the same with yours but that would just be silly

i completely agree.

Ask them. Watch them. Listen to them. If your home is a healthy one, your child has the ability and is encouraged to speak their mind. They are safe at home, to be themselves. I know lots of secular kids who dont even have this freedom, perhaps even some of you. Investigate the source of the Christian education, who is delivering it, how its being delivered, and most important - your childs reaction to it. GET INVOLVED. so you dont think that theres a strong possibility that they are going to their parents and the very same thing might be happening there as it does in school/churches? What if your wrong gauge? What if that child is actually happy and secure? What if that child has no challenge within them at this stage in their development? What if that child has some sort of fulfillment from their faith? What if that child actually has faith? What if your experience is but one part of the whole? Should your experience be the voice of all? Remember your biblical teaching Gauge...what is the lesson of the Prodigal Son? Was that son's father an oppressor or a support system? Did that Father embrace and value his child or use him and devalue him? Think about the lesson - why is it there? And who was the person who that that Lesson Gauge? And who is that lesson for? And does it apply to modern times and modern parents? Think about it. the question wasnt about children who believe or who are happy and secure, ive already stated before that its possible theyre either blindly following or theyve actually researched it and could be very happy or whatever the case may be and are happy with the decision to become or continue being christian. the real question is towards the other ones. the ones dont believe or are not happy and secure with the idea of christianity or it being forced on them. I already answered this, YES I have seen it. I was one of them. It is a tragedy. It is a tragedy for exactly that which you stated - they have no one to go to. Is this not the responsibility of the parents and community to provide? Did Christianity cause the parents to vacate their duty? I was one of these kids. And I was one because my father did not care. You were one, because your father did not care. I blame our fathers. they could have and should have.....done something. They did not. I do not charge the church with the sins of my Father. those sins, are his to bear. but do you see it now? from an adults standpoint? you are the ones (not specifically you but more meaning christian adults) that are now in the position to be doing the forcing (again not saying you are). how do you think your childhood, or my childhood, or any child going through life right now, might have been if your parents (in this case your father) had not been raised christian? i know for a fact that from my side of things if my father had not been forced into religion when he was younger he wouldnt be how he is now. again I refer back to responsible parenting. If your child is in turmoil - provide safety. If your child is in a position where they are being harmed due to their unbelief or unacceptance of what is being presented to them in this environment, then change the environment. Stop the turmoil. If your child instead only needs to be ACCEPTED for this indecision but does not want to make a full fledged change because the child needs time to sort things out, then by all means accept and nurture the child. And again remember that I questioned much as a child, and was beaten for it. I get it, trust me. im just going to refer to my point above and add that an overly religious parent dont often see the kind of pain that a child is going through as being unsafe. i know that (again from my experiences) when i would go to my dad about things like that he "knew" that it was gods way of telling him to push harder. its seen as the path that needs to be taken out of sin and into gods arms. first of all, children CAN make plenty of personal decisions, they do everyday. Regardless of the decisions made, honor the abilities of the child. Never force anything. You cannot force faith, or belief, or relationship for that matter. Remember your biblical teaching gague...how did Christ deal with children? i realize that children are quite intelligent and can make their own decisions but how can you expect a child (most children anyway) to make an informed decision when all theyve probably ever known is that god is love and if you follow him he will save you and on and on and on. "Never force anything" thats what ive been trying to get across is that it is being forced it CAN be forced. I HAVE seen it. But en masse, no I have not. Because i have ALSO seen, for many years in many children, the other side. I have also involved myself, with the other side. There IS a negative destructive side Gauge - I do not deny this and we have both experienced it. But there is a healthy and balanced side as well. This too I have seen, and these children I have been in relationship with, i do not make a pop judgement from a distance. I am a Christian. And an adult. And I have been in mentoring situations many times over the years. And this Christian, has never once, forced anything. And this Christian, was taught this sensitivity if you will, from other Christians who likewise never forced anything. People on this website have often referred to my approach being out fo the ordinary. But my approach is for me, very ordinary, as it was taught to me by way of example. There are many people exactly like me. I learned it. Someone had to show me. And I've been doing this for a very long time. We carry with us certain tools that are taught to us. My father taught me oppression. Others taught me freedom. im not saying that you personally have forced your religion on anyone and maybe the group of people you know of havnt either but from what ive seen, personal or not, that is not the norm.

had to attach cause it wont let me just post

you didnt really answer my question

double post >.<