Raev

(psst...will also feature the first performance by some bastard named Raev)

I'll be there at some point almost every night!

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I can address both of those questions, Torn. First - cocky is 75% verbal I'd say. 25% comes in with rolling of eyes, looking down on someone, giving looks of "yeah - as if". Even if it's intended for one person - everyone nearby can see it. As for smiling....I smile almost all day long. Not a giant grin, just a slight smile. Why do I have a slight smile? I'm generally happy. Happy to be alive, happy to see another day, happy to be near friends, happy that I am healthy....just generally happy. So, I normally have a slight smile to me.

OH! Ladies. Gentleman. STOP WITH THE WHOLE "so-and-so is out of my league" CRAP! ARGH! Drives me crazy. Damn near girl I've dated, I've firmly believed was MUCH better looking than I. Also more interesting than I. Every one of them has said the same thing when it came to what attracted them to me. "You were able to hold meaningful conversation with me and make me laugh" Ladies. Gents. Personality > Looks Now, don't get me wrong. Physical attraction is important. I just think it's about 1/3 of the deal. The other 2/3 is the personality. As for people who believe that the physical aspect is 100% of the deal.../nothanks. Too shallow for me, personally This kind of ties back to confidence. Be confident in your ability to captivate your audience. Relax. Let a song with a good groove to it flow through your head, if you need to. Don't captivate that one? It's ok. Don't fret. It isn't the end of the world. The SE Michigan region has roughly 4,425,110 people in it according to the census bureaus 2008 estimate. Soo...really...within 45 minutes of you my dear reader, is a couple million people within the sexual orientation of your preference. Don't fret. You've only met a handful of them, really. You can't meet them though, if you don't get out and about! If you need to use that piece of knowledge to keep you feeling confident, then by all means do so. "So this one didn't give a damn or didn't have chemistry. Not like there is a shortage of people!". Hrm, I'm ranting now aren't I?

Torn- Confident I would describe as... Head held high, shoulders straight, a slight smile, an even gate, speaking clearly, not being afraid to be a little silly. Cocky is when you start trying to sell yourself as being better than X Y or Z when it comes to A B or C. It's ok to believe you look good and have something to offer. Cocky comes in when you start talking to the other person like you have more to offer than they do. I'm not sure I'm explaining it well. Argh. Hehe.

*cough* My great grandparents were Irish immigrants. Actually, only one branch in my ancestral tree DOESN'T go to Ireland.

"Be yourself" sounds well and good..... "Don't give a fuck" well now, as much as I hate to admit it... ...I find that when I'm storming through City with my mohawk up and just not giving a shit one way or another about anything - I get hit on DRAMATICALLY more. Ladies, perhaps you can share why that is? I'm more thinking of the subtitles of the initial moments. That first impression. Lets face it, we don't go out to clubs/events etc the same way we sit around at home when depressed. We are being ourselves both ways though I'm more thinking that some of us (self included at times) need a little knowledge. What do we think is clever that women hate? Hence bringing up the "dance floor/bench" etiquette One thing that makes me sad when dealing with women, is when they give in too quickly. Put it all on the table from jump. Being flirty is well and good but there is a fine line. Perhaps I'm different...but I am an advocate of "leave him wanting more". It's not a race. Take some time and enjoy.

GUYS - Ok, I know a lot of females. 75% of my friends are women. A lot of them are either city clubbers or used to be. I've heard a similar complaint from just about all of them. Lets address it, shall we? If you see a lass sitting by herself, don't assume she is lonely or needs saved. See that girl on the bench? Looking down and by herself? She just MIGHT be looking for something she dropped. Or she is sitting by herself because she wants to be. Maybe her friends/sig other went to the bathroom (gods bless them and keep them safe). Perhaps she's sad. Perhaps she's angry. Doesn't matter. Watch the body language first. Signs that she may be approachable? 1-caught staring at you and doesn't look away + smiles. Pretty easy one to read. 2-keeps glancing over at you "subtlety". Lets face it, if they want us to know they are looking - we will pick up on it. Signs to leave alone? 1-Arms are crossed. Bad sign body language wise. 2-Clenched teeth. Balled fists. Wobbling. She's either drunk or pissed. Leave alone! Just wait for her body language to suggest something of an invitation. Side note - don't stare. That's creepy. Side note to the side note - this extends to the dance floor. Not every woman wants to be danced with by every sausage in the place. Wait for friendly body language. (ps, if she is dancing with 'high elbows' she wants to be left alone to just dance)

Some people are just naturally charismatic, interesting, attractive, smart and confident. ...... ...... Then there are the rest of us. Now, I'm no expert on breaking the ice or striking up conversation with a party I'm interested in. So, lets all share some advice? Ladies - what advice do you have for the guys? Guys - do we even need to advice ladies? Now, this first piece of advice goes for both genders. WALK WITH CONFIDENCE. Even if you don't feel it, CARRY yourself like you are amazing. Self esteem and confidence goes a LONG way. Evey if you don't believe it, walk proud. Walk like you own the real estate your feet touch. Walk like if you were to unzip your pants, a red cape with an S would fall out. Be confident. NOT cocky. Confident. Trust me, it can go a long way.

Ok, ill admit. I have had a crush on thatdeadgurl for a long time. She doesn't give me the time of day though lol. I think I haz one forming for siren...but everyone else seems to, too lol.

I try to not harass people I know to be in a relationship, unless I know it is ok (alternative relationships and the like). Dirty old man, not a dick. I admit though, I have the same weakness for canadian girls as I do irish girls.... ....And I'd trade my left arm for an irish lass!

Game on.

You seem to have quite the army of followers as is. Do you really want another?

Ooph, rough spot to find something to do at. Downriver...Wyandotte is your best bet for finding something to do. Bars every other building (The Oak over on..well..Oak is my fav), parks down at the river, coffee houses all over, downtown on Biddle is pretty artsy with shtuff to do, if you are into Martial Arts you have The Fighting Fit which is one of the few places you can train Krav Maga in the metro-detroit area, pool halls all over the place (Snookers on Dix-Toledo is coo at times), if you like hearing local music there is the Mod Ex on Dix-Toledo (imo, the place sucks but some scenesters in their early 20s go there)...

Give him a balloon penis.

Me. DGN in a parking lot from crackberry!

Go to The Castle

fo sho lol

Some of us could give pointers I'm sure. *cough* some of us even went to business school once upon a time.

I'm a sports fan too, Slogo. I didn't watch the super bowl though. I was otherwise preoccupied.

Nobody at the moment. Perhaps I need to get out again, it's been a few months now since I showed up anywhere for nightlife. Meet a few DGNers that I haven't met yet.