How to go about making her feel comfortable

[coed_doll]

Forgive me for jumping in on this so late...by WHY are you trying to convince her she is bi?

For me...I have known who I was my entire life...and I never put myself in a box or a category. Why should I? I am not defined by WHO I fall in love with. Unconditional love has no gender and sexual intimacy goes hand in hand with love.

I had a past girlfriend who was angry with me that I would not call myself a lesbian. I have dated women exclusively and I have been married to a man. I truly think you fall in love with the person that touches your heart.

And with the lesbian community, there is not the support for "bi" women like there is for gay women. It is an us against them mentality. BUT....

You should love and care for your girlfriend and support her for being her. Enjoy her company, love her unconditionally, and forget the labels.

[IsleofRhodesEnt]

Forgive me for jumping in on this so late...by WHY are you trying to convince her she is bi?

For me...I have known who I was my entire life...and I never put myself in a box or a category. Why should I? I am not defined by WHO I fall in love with. Unconditional love has no gender and sexual intimacy goes hand in hand with love.

I had a past girlfriend who was angry with me that I would not call myself a lesbian. I have dated women exclusively and I have been married to a man. I truly think you fall in love with the person that touches your heart.

And with the lesbian community, there is not the support for "bi" women like there is for gay women. It is an us against them mentality. BUT....

You should love and care for your girlfriend and support her for being her. Enjoy her company, love her unconditionally, and forget the labels.

Because "lesbian with a boyfriend" doesn't work....if she is bi, then she needs to admit she is bi....you can't be bi and jsut sit there and say "I'm a lesbian"..thats lying to yourself and others....if your scared of who/what you are...then thats a problem

and honestly...the lesbian/gay community NEEDS to get their head out of their ass when it comes to Bi-sexuals. They have more options...it's not like it's easier to have a relationship....what happened to WHO you love...not what gender??....it's hypocricital...and it's what she and I have a problem with....she believes that her friends wouldn't be supportive, which is ironic when most of them are drag kings and PRETEND to be guys anyway....

[Homicidalheathen]

Because "lesbian with a boyfriend" doesn't work....if she is bi, then she needs to admit she is bi....you can't be bi and jsut sit there and say "I'm a lesbian"..thats lying to yourself and others....if your scared of who/what you are...then thats a problem

and honestly...the lesbian/gay community NEEDS to get their head out of their ass when it comes to Bi-sexuals. They have more options...it's not like it's easier to have a relationship....what happened to WHO you love...not what gender??....it's hypocricital...and it's what she and I have a problem with....she believes that her friends wouldn't be supportive, which is ironic when most of them are drag kings and PRETEND to be guys anyway....

I totally agree. For open minded and excepting people (as they are thought to be) Bi persons get a lot of flack from gays...like you can either be str8 totally or gay totally and not a mish mosh of whatever

There are a lot of women like me who are like 60/30...

I think the things you two are about to embark upon between the sheets are pretty darn exciting.

Just dont post pics lol

Kudos to you for being man enough to wear a dress (if you do) it takes guts and you must really love her to be willing to do this.

[vampvoluptuous]

There is also another way to look at this situation as a pansexual.

"Pansexuality, or omnisexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by the potential for aesthetic attraction, romantic love, or sexual desire for people, regardless of their gender identity or biological sex. Thus, pansexuality includes potential attraction to people who do not fit into the gender binary of male/female. Some pansexuals suggest that they are gender-blind; that gender and sex are insignificant or irrelevant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others."

I label myself as bisexual but I have also known and been involved with a persons who said they were pansexual. The label of lesbian is not just sexuality and has a lot of political and community based around the word. I can see her issue with giving up this label as some people in the lesbian community are not very accepting of bisexual woman. It a sad fact but I have had issues and been looked down upon for being bisexual. I don't really have a answer for you but she might like to look into the label if pansexual if she feels she needs one. My heart goes out to both of you and I wish you the best of luck!

[angry_darkness]

Just love her for who she is, don't worry too much about it or you will drive yourself crazy and that is not good for you. go along for the ride and see where it takes you. If it does not work out chalk it up to a learning experience.