just on opinion but it seems to me you more or less want a nice loyal guy that you can control...just like with a girl not puting up with a guy being a dickhead iam pretty sure its ganna be rather difficult to find a guy that WANTS to date a girl who has a bossy bitch attitude...
now dont gte me wrong iam sure theres guys out there whos balls you can carry around in your purse but i havent came across many dudes like that