Lillylu29

AAAAAAAAAAAAGGGHH! No, you're not insane. Insanity is the action of constantly moping and pining for
a guy that's moved on in hopes that he'll turn around and come back. "

It sucks what he did.
It really fucking sucks. But now that it's been, what a year? You need to let go and start,
(notice I said START, I know Rome wasn't built in a day) getting your life back together.

You're not insane but you have a tendency to attach yourself to one thing and hold on tight.
You can't wrap you're entire life with one person, even if they're not gone, WHICH HE IS.
You need to have a life, in and of yourself.

You need to realize you can and have been surviving without him.
You need to seek self-satisfaction
(I mean that emotionally and spiritually but if a Hello Kitty Magic Bullet "massager" helps, go to it)



You need a better therapist, and some self discovery or you'll be in this rut forever.




I DON'T. Honestly Meg, sometimes you're blindly too nice. Like when you felt bad for that guy at the party we were at, because he had a recent hardship. That didn't excuse him being a dick to all of us and spilling his drinks everywhere (Though in retrospect it was kinda funny and he gave me a whole new person to imitate--one that I'll feel much less guilty about)

Tits. You don't need a hug at this point. I think that would be one of the worst things to give you.
At this point you are CHOOSING not to get better.

You need to WANT to get better. You need to TRY to get better.
You need to make the effort. It's hard It's really really hard. But until you fight back against the pain,
you won't recover. And a hug will do absolutely nothing but coddle the pain that you are refusing to fight against.



Ok now YOU need a hug. A hug of a thousand virgins wrapped in a thousand down blankets.
Did I warm you up yet?
BTW I've got a space heater if you need it.

Must be able to remain faithful throughout the relationship.

Bah, fuck that!
Real sex should not only keep the neighbors awake, but everyone within' 100 meters.
Just go up there in a bathrobe while they are goin' at it, and ask "Do you guys need a hand or something?"

Fuzzy. Increased the dosage of my medication yesterday. Working very well.

I feel anxious because my girl is coming over tomorrow morning and it cant get here quick enough!

Please, please, please please.

ORGANIZE.

Any organization that runs on donations at the least makes a statement of needs that is specific enough to give people a goal.

What is DGN's exact monthly needs?

Who is signed up for a regular donation? What does that add up to per month? What is the shortfall?

Make it public.

Vague requests for cash without knowing what the need is does not encourage action.

For raising money, sites like livejournal have a very effective program in place. Free accounts are bare-bones accounts. Paying accounts get appreciable extras--avatars, extra abilities and tools. Any permissions you can take from free accounts--DO IT. Make those "extras" part of $2/month accounts. Simply making the posting interval go away for paying posters is not enough. People will wait 45 seconds with not much complaint because its not something they are willing to pay to make go away. Instead, value-adds are something people will pay for. Take features away from free accounts. People wont have trouble with $2/month. However--livejournal also has another great feature. You can *gift* featured accounts to others. This will also create more options for payment streams.

Clean up non-active accounts.

However, a note:

Until DGN gets better organized and open about this, you're going to have a hard time raising funds no matter what. So, even if you put the ideas to use to restrict non-paying accounts, until you are transparent on how the money is being managed (i.e. the basics--what are DGNs needs, what does DGN have, and what is the shortfall), there will always be the problem of confidence. If I knew there was an effective system in place to deal with DGNs finances, I would gladly pay my $2 a month, and encourage others to do so as well. But as things stand right now? I don't have a whole lot of confidence that even one time bulk donations would do much good in the long run. You need to get organized. You're only one person. Delegate this to someone who can devote the time to it you're not physically able to give.

I have met many friends here, I would prefer to see DGN stick around. I've come to like the place. Please, please, please do something to ensure it stays around by doing something more effective than this thread. ORGANIZE. Make a plan, put it in action. Otherwise, people will visit this thread, commiserate over how much they would *like* to give something to the site but have no money. A lot of talk will continue to happen, and DGN will continue to cough and shudder along with bandwidth outages. I don't want that. You don't want that. Nobody wants that.

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